Just Do it – The 100km Bike Race
“Do you actually know what 100 kilometres is?” said my boyfriend. “It’s 10 times 10.” I said facetiously. Seriously it doesn’t mean much to me. When my father in law came over he said “Paula and I, we...
View ArticlePersonal Jesus
I provoke many people with my opinion about right and wrong; even though it is not my intention. That opinion is of course that there is no 'right or wrong' (or 'good or bad' for that matter). It...
View ArticleCreating The Vagina Times
The word ‘vagina’ has been bandied around our house a lot lately. In my journey towards liberation (in all aspects of my life) the examination of my sexuality, represented by that part of my anatomy...
View ArticleShould We Marry?
The Bottom Line: Marriage doesn’t accommodate more than 2… My boyfriend and I are still terribly in love, even after 5 years and two children. So much so that we have been talking about marriage off...
View ArticleGoing Back to the motherland
I’ve been back. Back to my old life for a weekend. Back to a fabulous costume party with an old and loved school friend. Back to beautiful monied Richmond where tastefully decorated shops ooze the...
View ArticleWhat’s so Great about Open Relationships Anyway?
Statistics are generally used to justify a position in a debate, so that people can decide on what is ‘right’ and what is ‘wrong’…and in general I dislike this way of presenting information given that...
View ArticleWhen Sexual Attraction Dries Up
I promised I wouldn’t write about it until it was over. Some things are too sensitive and personal even for me. For us. But it is over. Thank God. Every couple has gone through that agonizing dry spell...
View ArticleThe Triggers of Jealousy – He Slept with Someone
Why do we…crucify ourselves? ‘Will you come over for coffee?’ I said. ‘My boyfriend is in London. The kids can play together.’ ‘Why is he in London?’ said my friend. ‘Oh he’s gone for work, I said. But...
View ArticleIf You Love Something, Set it Free…
My ex-husband is getting married. To my boyfriend’s ex-wife. For those of you who already know the story, this should come as no surprise. It’s no surprise to me either. But my reaction is a mix of...
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