Living the Authentic Life
It’s always seemed inane to me that ideas can be ‘owned’ by people. And whilst having an idea is great, acting on it is what is really worth something. But I guess it depends on your view of where...
View ArticleWhy We Should Encourage Sex at Work
Sex is the thing that proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are born survivors. If man (as in mankind) thinks about sex every 6 seconds, it’s because he is programmed to be thinking about his...
View ArticleJust Do it – The 100km Bike Race
“Do you actually know what 100 kilometres is?” said my boyfriend. “It’s 10 times 10.” I said facetiously. Seriously it doesn’t mean much to me. When my father in law came over he said “Paula and I, we...
View ArticleWhen Honesty Costs You Your Job
I had a choice today. To tailor my writing and compromise my ethics, or to be honest, lose the gig, the client and the money. I don’t know in what sense a writer may be struggling, but let it not be...
View ArticleWhen Women Take Men’s Power
If you're a thirty something woman (or more!) you may have noticed an increasingly common phenomenon. Women do much more round the house than men. They take much more responsibility for the children...
View ArticleThe Best of Christian vs. Atheist Debate
Reddit has taken a lot of my attention lately. If you want hugely insensitive and incensed opinions, with ocassional flash of intelligence and the ability to laugh out loud from the written (usually...
View ArticleBe Careful What You Wish For – The Successful Blogger’s Peril
Blogging, the soapbox phenomenon of the last 10 years, is firmly established in our collective psyche. And behind the protection of your screen, you are freer than ever before to pontificate, lambast...
View ArticleThe First Swinging Party
Another couple – Aidan and Jacinthe - was driving us to the social and as my nerves mounted, Jacinthe gave me her top tip. “Keep your lipstick handy. And use it as an excuse if you can’t say no – just...
View ArticleFrom Financial Controller to Full-Time Writer
I entered the world again today. But I entered it as a new person. The old Louisa, was a people pleaser and a chameleon. She could slip in and out of roles connecting with people from all different...
View ArticleWhy the Truth sells better than Sex (and Why if it doesn’t I Shouldn’t Care)
The ad said ‘Wanted: A Concept Creator & Storyteller who likes to be seen and heard.’ It might as well have said ‘Wanted: Louisa Leontiades’ …or rather Louisa (No Leontiades). Yes, I admit it. I do...
View ArticleDon’t Lose Your Compassion for Newbies
A very important and interesting post came out on sexgeek’s blog this week entitled the problem with polynormativity. …for those of us who have been practicing polyamory for a while, it’s certainly a...
View ArticlePersonal Jesus
I provoke many people with my opinion about right and wrong; even though it is not my intention. That opinion is of course that there is no 'right or wrong' (or 'good or bad' for that matter). It...
View ArticleCreating The Vagina Times
The word ‘vagina’ has been bandied around our house a lot lately. In my journey towards liberation (in all aspects of my life) the examination of my sexuality, represented by that part of my anatomy...
View ArticleShould We Marry?
The Bottom Line: Marriage doesn’t accommodate more than 2… My boyfriend and I are still terribly in love, even after 5 years and two children. So much so that we have been talking about marriage off...
View ArticleGoing Back to the motherland
I’ve been back. Back to my old life for a weekend. Back to a fabulous costume party with an old and loved school friend. Back to beautiful monied Richmond where tastefully decorated shops ooze the...
View ArticleWhat’s so Great about Open Relationships Anyway?
Statistics are generally used to justify a position in a debate, so that people can decide on what is ‘right’ and what is ‘wrong’…and in general I dislike this way of presenting information given that...
View ArticleWhen Sexual Attraction Dries Up
I promised I wouldn’t write about it until it was over. Some things are too sensitive and personal even for me. For us. But it is over. Thank God. Every couple has gone through that agonizing dry spell...
View ArticleThe Triggers of Jealousy – He Slept with Someone
Why do we…crucify ourselves? ‘Will you come over for coffee?’ I said. ‘My boyfriend is in London. The kids can play together.’ ‘Why is he in London?’ said my friend. ‘Oh he’s gone for work, I said. But...
View ArticleIf You Love Something, Set it Free…
My ex-husband is getting married. To my boyfriend’s ex-wife. For those of you who already know the story, this should come as no surprise. It’s no surprise to me either. But my reaction is a mix of...
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